Adapted from The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict
by Ken Sande, Updated Edition (Grand Rapids, Baker Books, 2003) p. 86.
Food for Thought
A gentle answer turns away wrath and could possibly open up the door to peacemaking.
Directly confronting an unusually stressed-out person rarely proves effective. The defenses go up and the door of conversation usually gets slammed shut. Consider how this happens in your own life. When you're unusually stressed, are you just wishing someone would come up and directly confront you? Even if you're the one in the wrong? Probably not.
But is an unusually stressed-out person grateful when someone treats them with gentleness? Even if they're in the wrong? Almost always. The defenses are lowered and you just might be invited in; in where the deeper issue resides that may not have anything to do with you. So think about who you might be particularly gentle with this week, and pray that instead of stirring up anger, you might minister powerfully to that person.